Are You In A Bad Marriage
Yet, many married couples elect to handle the bad situation for various reasons. Some are not even aware of the severity of the problem. You should be the first one to know, if you are experiencing a bad marriage? Not necessarily.
Partners who have come from homes of bad marriages often think this is the normal. They watched their parents suffer a affection less marriage for the sake of the children. This causes adverse effects on child’s mentality.
They grow up with a wrong assumption of how a happy family should function. Then, when they encounter a similar rocky marriage they do nothing but roll with the punches, sometimes literally.
No love, no closeness and no conversation are signals of a bad marriage. There could also be physical and verbal problem. If the husband or wife invents excuses to stay away from home, something is wrong. Without talking to each other there can be no hope for correcting the situation. You must seek solutions together, accept what is wrong and discuss change.
Do not allow yourself to fall into a state of negation. You may consider marriage sacred and fear seeking help for fear of failure. Others remain in a bad marriage for the sake of the children or they are afraid of hurting friends or members of the extended family. Do not become a martyr to protect the feelings of others. Admit your situation and seek help.
People hold on to the hope they can save the marriage themselves and wait more than six years to finally give in a seek therapy or counseling. More than half the couples who seek a third party’s advice are able to save the marriage.
The sad news is that only one percent of couples seek therapy or counseling. You must have the knowledge of the problems but you are hesitating to admit them. A marriage counselor can bring out the truth and offer solutions.
We often times are caught up in the Hollywood fantasy that in the end all things will work out and love will triumph all. It is good to keep a positive attitude but there are times when you need someone to point out the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship. They can help you distinguish between infatuation and true love.
Living in a bad marriage can be dangerous to your health. Bad marriage can give you stress and have adverse effect on you and your family health.
The constant stress and unhappiness increase the risk of depression, eating disorders and coronary health. It also lowers the body’s resistance to sickness and disease.
Remain calm and submissive, do not get upset by your situation. A bad marriage can be repaired with love, respect and a commitment to resolve the problems. You must not cheat yourself and decide if your marriage is worth saving. Most marriages are, but the decision is yours.