Marriages are made in heaven, but have to be sustained on earth. Nowadays, when people have lost their sense of patience, especially married couples, it has become very difficult for them to sustain and nurture their love relationship. After years of marriage, both the partners criticize each other on even very petty issues. Why, this has become a major area of discussion for relationship researchers. They know why a marriage succeed or fail, and have suggested that if partners don’t stop disliking & blaming each other, then divorce is the only fate for some.
Partners contempt to express their frustrations. One step further, contempt takes place of criticism. At this stage, the criticizing partner thinks that the other one is a complete failure and worthless. This kind of disrespect includes sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, and many other unpleasant actions in from of friends, family members, children, and even to themselves in their mind.
What To Do?
There are certain ways in which you can control the situation of contempt and criticize. Read further to know how you can improve and save your relationship with your spouse.
Choose the feeling and words wisely while telling yourself about your partner. If you are hurt, angry or frustrated because of something else, and your partner says or does something that triggers your sadness, then you become more upset. This upset behavior is because of your own history and your own reasons. Think wisely before scolding or shouting at your spouse. Think with peaceful mind whether he / she really is responsible for anything. The more you analyze yourself, the more you will be satisfied as a couple.
Be mature and deal with any situation maturely. If you are frustrated, then act like an adult to express it to your partner. Convey to them that their certain behavior or action had a very negative effect on you. You can ask them when they will be able to have a conversation regarding that. This will avoid future arguments to a great extent. Listen and speak peacefully. Listen what your other half has to say, without interruption.
Look for positivity in everything- your partner, family, yourself and life. Try showing gratitude and appreciation for your partner. Whenever you find her / him doing something right, don’t miss the chance to admire their acts. Look for such praiseworthy behavior twice a week. Look for efforts, not for perfection. Telling them via email or text makes it more interesting and fun. Look for positivity and you will find it.